I have told myself I need to write everyday whether I feel like it or nor, whether I am having a good day or not.
A few days ago, I received yet another rejection. And it sent me spiraling into the deep, dark abyss.
We hear about many best-sellers that were rejected a gazillion times before they were accepted for publication. You hear people say, “Try. You have nothing to lose.”
You know what I think? That saying is for the strong-willed, the stout-hearted who brim with confidence. Not for the faint of heart whose confidence gets severely undermined with every rejection.
What really scares me is that I will find myself on my deathbed still sending out queries. Of course I exaggerate, but you get my point.
So then let’s say I quit. What then? Won’t I always wonder? What if I had sent out one more query? Would that have been the one that made it?
You know what I learned from this – the first thing about trying is accepting that you might lose. And accepting that when you do lose, it chips away at your confidence and lets the doubts creep in. The next thing you have to learn is to bounce back. Yes, the confidence is a little less, the doubts are more, but you are going to try again. You step back, you refocus and strenghten your efforts and then try again.
What I realized is this- it is not the trying that counts. It is the bouncing back, the ability to handle the loss so I can try again that makes the difference.